3 Reasons You Don’t Need the Support of Your Friends or Family

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“Don’t wait around for other people to be happy for you. Any happiness you get you’ve got to make yourself.” – Alice Walker

How many times have you sat, wondering why your friends or family don't support what you're working on or the goals you have? What if I told you their support didn't matter? Up until recently, I was hellbent on people supporting my work—especially those closest to me, but over the last few months, I began to understand their support didn't matter, as long as those who I'm working to serve (my audience) supports me. While this goes against everything we're taught to believe, it boils down to seeking their validation. Once you let this go and the noise that surrounds it, you will be able to let go of the notion that you need the support of everyone around you to be successful. With that said, understand there’s a difference between support and showing up; your friends and family don't need to "buy" into what you're doing, but they do need to show up and be supportive. I've put together three reasons why you don't need the support of your friends and family to be successful, read below. 

Their support doesn't matter

Whether you're a nurse, trainer, or blogger, your family and friends aren't your clients or target audience, so their support doesn't matter. You may want them to help you study or promote your business, but let me tell you the honest truth, 9-times-out-of-10, it's not going to happen, and that's okay. You can't make anyone support you, and while you may want or need their approval, you don't actually need it. Focus on who you're serving, be useful to them, and you will be just fine without that validation of support.


They don't understand

Sometimes support is lacking because people simply don't understand what your goals are. While it's not your job to make them understand, you have to be very clear on your goals, so people have the opportunity to support you. If you are clear and the support is still lacking, don't take it to heart; your goals may be out of reach for them. Also, some people attack things that are new to them; this is about them, not you.

You are a mirror

A few weeks back, I had a conversation with a friend of mine who helped me understand a lot of this and the biggest takeaway was; you are a mirror. This means they see a lack of their progression in your progression and because of that, they're unable to support you. Don't take their criticism—positive or negative—personal; they could be projecting their fears and insecurities on you. Remember, the people closest to you have to literally SEE you living your dream before they will be able to support you.


Yes, we all want our friends and family to support us, but that's not always the case. Keep going, you're powerful enough, by yourself; believe in that, focus on your audience and work, and be successful on your terms. YOU ARE A BADASSContinue to Live Your Life in Style and always Be Inspired.


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