It seems like as soon as I'm on track to get things going, something happens or hits me that pushes me ten steps behind. I go into every week and month with solid plans, outlined step-by-step, and when it's time to execute, the universe throws a wrench into the system to test how ready I am; unfortunately, the wrench is winning as I'm nowhere near where I want to be or doing the work I want to be doing. Here's the thing, trying to build a career outside of the [traditional] 9-to-5 scope has been a nonstop learning experience and a consistent push to get me out of my comfort zone, one that I'm learning to embrace instead of resist.
A combination of fear, self-worth, and readiness has kept me behind, but I'm learning more-and-more; to get where I want to be, I have to let go of the things that are holding back. Here’s three things I'm learning to let go of to live the life that is intended for me, and how you can let go of them as well.
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You can open up your phone, a blog or website, and any feed and everything seems seemingly perfect, but is it? As humans, it's easy to fall into the trap of looking at the outside world like it's perfect and try to perfect everything you create, but it's an unrealistic expectation, one that I hold over myself with everything I do. And because I'm such a perfectionist, I find myself over thinking, over planning, and later hating it all; perfectionism is self-destructive and addictive, it makes you think you're in control of obtaining something that's unrealistic. Hence the over planning and under executing.
Here's how to let go of perfection:
Not comparing, and knowing self-worth and perfection are not one-in-the-same
Striving for excellence rather than perfection
Done is better than perfect
Planning is my thing; it's [literally] my 9-to-5, and I'm naturally good at it, but over planning means nothing if you aren't executing your plans. A few years back, I planned everything that I would do in my 30s, worst idea because now I'm stuck trying to make those plans happen instead of enjoying life and letting things flow naturally. Yes, you should have goals and dreams and a clear strategy to achieve them, but when you're planning your life and trying to live up to those false expectations, you leave no room for spontaneity.
Here's how to let go of over planning:
Coach yourself instead of planning; let go of routine
Go with the unexpected as soon as it happens
Have you ever found yourself scrolling endlessly or glued to the TV when you know you should be doing something productive like finishing that post, reading your new book, or sending that email? I think we're all guilty of this, myself, more than I'd like to admit. Procrastination is a trap, an active process you choose to participate in by doing something other than the task you set out to complete, and while you're aware of it, it may be difficult to break the habit.
Here's how to stop procrastinating
Block out distractions
Failing is okay; take the risk
Become aware you're procrastinating
Letting go of the things that are holding you back are easy, but necessary, and the first step in doing so is identifying what those things are. I talked about embracing life a few weeks ago, and to do this, I must let go of everything that's holding me back—one thing at a time. I encourage you to do the same. Continue to Live Your Life in Style and always Be Inspired.