Having big [life changing goals] means big sacrifices and challenges will lay ahead. Many times those challenges we face are internal, and although I've made it no secret here on the site that timing is everything, I've learned that there are some things you need to let go of before you can move towards success and be ready for your time.
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Letting go of anything is naturally hard for us, but it's a process that must happen. Anything or anyone that doesn't move you towards your goal; let it go. Here I'm going to share with you three things you must let go of to be successful.
Fear of Failure
How many times have you held off on doing something because you were scared you were going to fail at it? Many times we are so overwhelmed with what's going to happen in the future that we forget to process the progress. I'm an over-thinker—too focused on the future instead of living in the moment; this has hurt my success before, but once I started doing [the work] things began to fall into place. You have to understand that everything doesn't work out as planned, but it's not the challenge that hurts, it's the fear of starting (or continuing) that does. Failure is not an option, it's a requirement for success, and the only way to get over the fear is to face it head on.
Perfectionism comes from two places: fear and the idea of being "good enough". I believe this starts from an early age; the importance of getting straight A's or getting that gold star adds unwanted pressure; this added pressure of being good enough or, in this case, smart enough carries with us into adulthood. When you don't receive those grades or stars, you feel bad about yourself and become afraid of failing. Let's look at Pinterest; how many times have you tried to create a recipe or craft and it didn't turn out like the picture or instructions? You get frustrated because it isn't "right" or "perfect" and you give up and stop trying out of fear. All of this is the need for outside validation and approval. Sounds crazy, I know! So, how do we overcome this?
You overcome perfectionism by separating the idea that accomplishments and self-worth are connected; you're not what you accomplish and how well you do it. Cut yourself some slack and realize that if you give your all in everything you do, that's good enough. Yes, there's ALWAYS room for growth and improvement, but separate that from wanting to please others to pleasing yourself.
Whether you want to admit it or not, we've all been guilty of comparison. With this crazy social media world that we live in, the idea to compare is at our fingertips. How many times have you scrolled down someone's feed and said "I could do that" or "how come they got this and I didn't"? That's comparison, and while it may not come from a place of jealousy, it's coming from a place of "why them and not me"? STOP DOING THIS RIGHT NOW! It's not healthy for your mindset and will lead you to fear and perfectionism.
It's okay to be inspired by people and their work, but their journey is theirs and not yours. I always have to remind myself to focus on what I'm doing and not what the next person is doing. You should know what's going on in your particular industry, but don't let it hinder your work and growth.
I made a commitment to myself at the beginning of the year that I will be accountable for my goals and the work I need to do to get there. Now six months in the year, and things have not gone exactly how I'd like them to go, but every day I make an effort to work towards my goals regardless of how I'm feeling or what's going on. I remind myself [daily]; in order to achieve the level of success I'm happy with, I must let go of the fear of failure or success, perfection, and comparison; these are the things that continued to hold me back, but now that I'm more self-aware, I'm able to overcome them. Continue to Live Your Life in Style and always Be Inspired.