5 Ways to Feel Comfortable in Your Own Skin
You open up a magazine and see this perfectly sculpted body with flawless skin and hair, and then look in the mirror and ask yourself, "why can't I look like that?" Our society has defined who's the prettiest, smartest, and most fashionable, and when we don't fit into this created mold, we begin to feel bad about ourselves and uncomfortable in our skin. But who created these standards?
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I often found myself sitting in pity, criticizing my non-flawless skin or weight, and sometimes even my style when it doesn't live up to an unrealistic standard. But here's the thing, as I became more comfortable and happy with me, those things stop mattering. What I learned is you have to be good on the inside to feel good on the outside, sounds simple, but with this digital wave of social media and "influencers," it makes it that much-more-difficult to do. When you're truly comfortable with who you are, you don't feel the need to compare yourself to others or the need to do things that impress anyone. We're all a work in progress, trying to become better versions of ourselves, but once you figure out who you are, you'll be less likely to be affected by these standards and comparisons. Here are five things you can do to feel more comfortable in your skin.
Take care of yourself
We've always taking care of everything and everyone but ourselves. You're not sleeping, eating, spending money on others, but never taking the time to care for yourself. Too often self-care is overlooked because you don't feel comfortable with yourself, you feel you're not worthy of the time it takes to self-care, but you must honor yourself before you can give to anyone. Spend 40-60 minutes daily doing something that honors you and doesn't involve anyone else. Whether that's reading or taking a long bath, do it daily and watch how your perception changes.
While this can fall under self-care, I believe it's important to do in connection with caring for yourself. Meditation and prayer can be the link that's missing in your life. I've found that when I sit in silence and meditate on the questions I have, I'm able to receive clarity and allow my authentic self to guide me to the answers I need. If you aren't a religious or spiritual person, you can journal. A gratitude and intention journal is the perfect way to connect to a higher energy.
Do what makes you happy
Saying no to the things you don't enjoy is okay. I believe in only giving energy to the things I enjoy doing; it's simple - if I don't want to do something, I don't do it. On the other hand, you have to incorporate more of the things you do enjoy doing. If it's painting or hiking, do more of that; as you start to focus on what you like to do, you will see more of your authentic [happy] self show up.
Embrace your physical flaws
Everyone has something they don't like about themselves. Whether it be freckles or frizzy hair, there's something. When I was 13, I finally got chicken pox, and they left scarring that I was uncomfortable with up until a few years ago. Overcoming them wasn't easy, but as I get older, I understand they're a part of who I am, they're a part of my story. Learn to embrace your "flaws," they're what makes you unique and interesting.
Weird is good
Don't apologize for who you are; weird is good and perfect is boring. If you have a quirk that others consider weird or annoying, give it to them a little more - it's you! Never let anyone put you down for your uniqueness, this is what makes you interesting.
Being comfortable with yourself isn't easy, and like anything else takes work and practice. With these five tips, you'll be on your way to feeling comfortable both physically and emotionally. Continue to Live Your Life in Style and always Be Inspired.