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For a long time, I found myself criticizing every part of who I was and who I am; from my non-flawless skin to my weight, and even my style. Because we live in a very image driven society, and publications along with social media have (re)defined what beauty is, I found myself comparing my looks too unrealistic, retouched images of perfection. It's easy to feel bad about yourself when you compare your looks to beauty standards no one can live up to, and while this is [very] true to women, men experience it as well. But here's the thing, as I became more comfortable and happy with ME, those standards stopped mattering. What I learned is, you have to be good on the inside to feel good on the outside; sounds simple, but with this digital wave of social media and influencers, it makes it much-more-difficult to do. When you're truly comfortable with who you are, you don't feel the need to compare yourself to others or the need to do things that impress anyone. We're all a work in progress, trying to become better versions of ourselves, but once you figure out who you are, you'll be less likely to be affected by these standards and comparisons; here are five ways you can feel more comfortable in your skin.
Take care of yourself
Self-care is so important because you're taking care of everything and everyone but yourself. From not sleeping, eating, to spending money on others, you're never taking time to care for yourself. Too often self-care is overlooked because you don't feel comfortable with yourself, you feel you're not worthy of the time it takes to care for yourself, but you must honor yourself before you can give to anyone. Spend 40-60 minutes daily doing something that honors you and doesn't involve anyone else. Whether that's reading or taking a long bath, do it daily and watch how your perception changes.
In just about every post I write, I mention meditation, prayer, or journaling because I believe it to be a vital and important connection to caring for yourself; it can be the link that's missing in your life. I've found that when I sit in silence and meditate on the questions I have, I'm able to receive clarity and allow my authentic self to guide me to the answers I need. If you aren't a religious or spiritual person, try journaling. A gratitude and intention journal is the perfect way to connect to a higher energy.
Do what makes you happy
Saying no to the things you don't enjoy is okay. I believe in only giving energy to the things I enjoy doing; it's simple – if I don't want to do something, I don't do it. On the other hand, you have to incorporate more of the things you do enjoy doing. If it's painting or hiking, do more of that; as you start to focus on what you like to do, you will see more of your authentic [happy] self show up. It's funny because I had an industry event last week, and after talking myself out of going (self-sabotage), I ended up going and having the BEST time! It was a reminder that I need to do more of what makes me happy and have more FUN.
Embrace your physical flaws
We all have something we don't like about ourselves; whether it's freckles or frizzy hair, there's something. When I was 13, I finally got chicken pox, and they left me with scarring that I was uncomfortable with up until a few years ago. Overcoming the feelings of discomfort and fear were not easy, but as I get older, I understand they're apart of who I am, they're apart of my story. Learn to embrace your flaws, they're what makes you unique and interesting.
Weird is good
Don't apologize for who you are; weird is good and perfect is boring. If you have a quirk that others consider weird or annoying, give it to them a little more - it's you! Never let anyone put you down for your uniqueness, this is what makes you interesting.
Being comfortable with yourself isn't easy, and like anything else takes work and practice. With these five tips, you'll be on your way to feeling comfortable both physically and emotionally. Continue to Live Your Life in Style and always Be Inspired.