Change is scary, especially when you don't know what's on the other side, and if you're confused by what you should be doing vs. what you're currently doing, and want to make changes; the process can be hard to trust. At any given moment, things can go against your plans, so that feeling of uncertainty can keep you from taking the steps forward continuing to push you backward.
Almost two years to the date, I was laid off from my job; I had no idea what my next steps would be or how I was going to manage to make it without having a solid plan and a backup plan to support the original one. Days were rough and scary, but on the other side of fear and uncertainty, I held on to faith and believed that everything would turn around, and it did. I'm a firm believer that everything you go through is part of the process to push you towards who you're supposed to be. The journey won't be pretty or comfortable, but when you're trusting the process, the course will be worth it. Here are seven ways to trust the process.
Strengthen your faith
A lot of people confuse having faith with being religious, but having faith—for me—means believing in something that can't be seen or felt. It often requires having a belief in a higher power, something bigger than yourself, but the two are not mutually exclusive and are interchangeable. It takes courage to have faith; you don't always know the outcome or if the road you're on will be the right one, but that's why having a strong sense of faith is important because no matter what happens, good or bad, you know and believe that everything will turn out the way it's supposed to.
Transform your experience
It's cliche to say, but your thoughts matter; they bring everything to you—the good and bad. So, if you're concentrating on the bad, you'll get more negativity, and if you're focusing on the good, you'll get more abundance and hope. Your thoughts are like seeds, every thought you plant will bloom into your reality, so make sure you're planting the seeds that will co-create the destiny that's beneficial to process and experience.
The visions you have, the ones you hold in your mind, are the key to your future. And many of us are not using visualization to help us achieve our goals and dreams because we believe it will not make a difference. Visualizing gives you the ability to enjoy your journey without fear and anxiety. The most popular way to use visualization is to create a vision board; get some old magazines and cut out every image and word that connects with you and stick them to a foam board. Stash your vision board away, but in a place where you will see it often, but isn't a direct focus. Check-in with after 12-months and see which visions came to fruition.
You can be your worst enemy—I'm mine more often than I'd like to admit, but when you release the resistance and face when you've been avoiding, that's when you gain your power, and your process can run smoothly. So, if you're avoiding a relationship, getting that blog post or book done, or avoiding taking time to yourself, face it head on because what you avoid will persist.
Set yourself free
Holding onto anything is an act of control, and far-too-often we are attached to things, situations, and outcomes that we refuse to let go of what we expected it to like it. Part of trusting the process is letting go of what you want to allow what is to flow freely. When I'm able to let go of an outcome and who I think I'm supposed to be, I feel closer to who I am; it allows my authentic self to be free. I encourage you to practice letting go of your thoughts of what should be and trust in something bigger than your thoughts—set yourself free.
How is the enemy of progress; it's the barrier to trusting the process, and when you're focusing on how to do something, you'll never get anything done and be quick to give up. Now, I'm not saying you shouldn't know what you're doing, but you shouldn't focus on the how of the process because, in the beginning, you won't know how and won't be ready; nobody is. What I've learned over time is you don't need to be good to start, but you need to start to get good, so start where you are right now, and keep going.
To round it out, similar to faith, you must believe in not only yourself but the process. The process isn't going to be all glamorous; it isn't going to be easy or go exactly how you want to it every time, but when you surrender to the process and let go of all the mental blocks, you'll be able to receive everything you ask for; in simpler terms, everything you desire is out there, but you must be willing to do the work, trust the process, and believe you're worthy of receiving it.
Trust = Surrender + Faith
It may not look how you want it, and you don't need to understand it, but the energy you put out is the energy you'll get back, so allow yourself to be free enough to trust that everything you're going through is in preparation for who you're becoming. Continue to Live Your Life in Style and always Be Inspired.